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Pet euthanasia decisions

Pet euthanasia decisions

Pet euthanasia decisions

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How do you decide the right time and place to put a pet to sleep?

A lot of my time is spent helping owners make this all-important final decision. In the months and years leading up, some people over-think it, some people refuse to think about it at all. We all have different ways of responding to death, and unfortunately our culture hasn’t really equipped us well to deal with the euthanasia of our much-loved pets.

There is no small amount of irony that our pets are afforded a far more graceful and painless exit from this world than we are ourselves. The right to die with dignity is a massive debate raging in Australia and elsewhere in the world currently, and despite my own strong views on the matter, I won’t touch on that discussion in this post. But I will go through some of the issues we all need to think about in deciding when, where and what else.

The big one – when is the right time?

The actual answer is easy. Finding that answer in your pet’s case is trickier. It all comes back to happiness. It was no frivolous decision that saw me name my veterinary service Animal Happiness. The right time for any of us to die is when we are no longer happy and there is no prospect of being able to improve that. It really is as simple as that. It’s not about you – you need to be clear on that. For many of us our pets are an important element of our own well-being – both physical and mental. However, it is still our solemn responsibility to ensure our animals have the best welfare. To keep a pet alive because we don’t have the strength to let go is just not fair. Be honest with yourself.

But is your pet happy? Like, today? Determining confidently when your ageing and/or ill pet is no longer happy and there is no prospect of that improving at any stage is actually a lot more challenging. But so longer as you look at your animal through a lens of happiness assessment you will find it easier to make sense of.

Assessing your pet:

  1. Do you see grumpiness that never used to appear?
  2. Do you no longer see that look of enjoyment from interaction with you or other family members?
  3. Is appetite becoming more of a problem? Are there more frequent days when you can’t tempt them with anything?
  4. Does your pet spend the entire day sleeping and have none of the old behaviours remaining?

If you can answer yes to 2 or more of the points above it may be time for a reassessment. Of course you can’t make this sort of decision just on a simple check-list, but these are 4 valuable indicators of happiness, and if the picture you see of your pet suggests he or she is more unhappy than happy, it is time to see your vet and make sure you have a clear picture about the animal’s health and underlying quality of life.

Where is the right place?

Again, happiness is key. However, this time the happiness of everyone matters. For many people there is confidence and reassurance in the local clinic you have been taking the pet all these years. You know the staff and trust their professionalism – the clinic absolutely is the right place in that situation. For many others their grief is best handled in the privacy of their own home. And of course for many pets things are far less stressful in the house that is their whole world. If that is your situation, ask if your vet will provide a house call. Many vets who are not fully set up to do house calls regularly will still do so for valued clients for the final step of euthanasia.

Who should be there?

Many people prefer not to be present for the final moment, and there is no doubt – it can be extremely emotionally taxing and some people are not able to cope with it – and that is ok.

But if you are able to shoulder the burden I believe it is valuable to be there. Anyone who has ever had much involvement with the pet may wish to be present if it is possible. It is certainly valuable for the animal’s happiness for at least one close family member to be there and be close.

At this point I would like to offer a solemn mark of respect to the hundreds of mothers I have met over the years. It is certainly not always the case, but many many times I have seen big tough teenagers and even bigger tougher dads crumble and leave the room, but the mothers never leave – especially if the others have left. The strength a mother has to take care of those she raises always leaves me in awe. Thank you.

Children are another decision. Below 3-4 years most children do not understand much of what death means. By about 5-7 years most children understand the different aspects of death – and because they have more recently accepted that this will happen to them as well one day – they can be very emotional about it. However, I feel this is not entirely a reason to shield them from it. The fairest and most respectful thing to do is to simply ask your children if they wish to be present if you feel they are old enough to understand what it means. You, or more likely your vet, can explain the process if that helps them decide. And whatever they wish – that is the right answer and should be supported. Whether they are present or not they will learn and grow through the experience.

What actually happens?

Assuming you have a compassionate and communicative veterinarian the specifics of the process should be explained in understandable terms. The entire process only needs to take a few minutes and the final needle works in literally a few seconds but the process should proceed at a pace that you dictate. You can expect a quiet and usually gentle slide into sleep then subsequent death. Pets that are grumpy and/or in pain from their condition benefit from sedation to help ensure the process is graceful and stress-free. I always use a sedative injection to ensure the patient slides into a gentle sleep before the final needle.

Are there other things we should think about?

As we all tend to experience an outpouring of grief after the process is complete it is a good idea to have talked about and dealt with some practicalities before the event. You may want to ensure the veterinary bill for the procedure is paid before-hand and it is a very good idea to have decided how you want the body handled afterward. Some people are still in a position to be able to bury a pet on their property but for many this isn’t an option and aftercare through a pet cremation company needs to be considered. Cremation still provides the option of having the ashes returned for ceremony or keepsake. When I provide euthanasia for pets in Perth homes I am able to take the pet with me for burial or cremation.

Discuss these things well before the event with your family or at least think them through clearly yourself if it is just your decision to make. Death is a part of life and whatever you believe about what happens afterwards. Dealing with the ­process with grace and acceptance is something we owe our furry family members.

They don’t know to fear death but they certainly know to appreciate our love to the very end.

We provide respectful end-of-life care

They depend on us more than ever at this stage of life


  1. Hughes. National Geographic – When do kids understand death? 2013 (Retrieved 2015)
  2. Cooney et al. Veterinary Euthanasia Techniques. 2012

12 thoughts on “Pet euthanasia decisions

  1. Del Smith

    Our beloved dog is nearing the end of her life – loss of appetite, blind, deaf and appears to be in pain. She weighs about 10kgs, down from around 15kgs. What are your fees all up for euthanasia.
    Thanking you, Del Smith, Trigg. WA.

    1. Gary Post author

      So I never saw this message when you posted it, but of course your dear old Tully left this world quietly and peacefully with all his loving family close by.

  2. Marg Roeterdink

    We had our precious and very old cat euthanized at home a few years ago. It was great that I didn’t need to move him from the old couch he’d claimed…but one thing really upset me. The vet said he had to shave some fur off his leg to give the injection, and my poor cat howled & protested at this action ( so much so, that totally distraught, I had to leave the room). That final howl of distress has haunted me. Haven’t had a replacement cat but one day I hope to. My question is…does this process of shaving off the fur really have to take place? ( I do think my cat’s passing would have been more peaceful without it occurring.)
    Many thanks,

    1. Gary Post author

      Hi Margaret. I’m so sorry you had an upsetting experience with that.
      Fur doesn’t have to be shaved, but it usually makes it far easier to be able to get a needle in the vein.
      I always start with a sedative needle so the pet is relaxed and pain free by the time I need to prepare a vein. That tends to ensure the whole process is gentle, quiet and dignified.

  3. Deb

    It is with gratitude i post this having so very recently used this service. You had been Bear’s vet since he was a pup and he loved you. It was a blessing to be able to hold his head, in his own yard as he peacefully slipped away. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts Gary. Your gentle and tender compassion towards Bear and us touched our hearts most profoundly. Thank you!

  4. Leesa Padget

    Hi Gary, we received your card today and it reminded me that we all wanted to thank you for last week. You made Diesels last moments peaceful, painless and stress free and we are forever grateful. You gave us some very comforting words and reminded us to remember all the good times we had with her. It’s been a tough week without her but we know it will get easier and we have been looking at photos and laughing about her old antics, as you suggested, so thanks again from us all 🙂

  5. Carissa

    Beautifully written Gary. Shows your knowledge and experience as a vet, but also how much you care about the animals…and their human families. Such a true comment about mothers too. I have seen the same scenario many many times in paediatric ED. Our doggies are still young and well, but when the time does come, whenever that will be, I hope that yourself or someone as dedicated and caring as you, will be there!

  6. Theordore Winston

    I’m single and my dog is all I have in my life right now, I love him so much but he’s getting really old and weak; playing fetch which is his favorite thing to do seemed to be impossible right now. My friend advised me to let go of Marley and suggested me to consider euthanasia for simple and painless death; this would be the hardest decision I’ll be making so far. I understand that I should consider my pets happiness on this, but I still don’t know if I have the guts to make this decision. I think your right about death is a part of life and acceptance is the only key to making this decision. Thanks for sharing this.

  7. Frank Ellis

    I think making the right call to euthanize an adored pet is the toughest thing task that a pet owner ever has to do. I have witnessed so many times that pet owners are grappling with making the right decision about their pet euthanasia. Lack of ability to stand, saying ‘NO’ to food, and no longer gulping down are some of the common signs, by which a pet owner can guess that this is the right time to euthanize his pet. Sometimes pets don’t show any kinds of signs. Better one should do regular health checkups of his pet with the help of an experienced veterinarian who can, not only observe his physical condition but also tell him the suitable time to euthanize his pet. Well, one may use house call vet service for the same purpose.

  8. Rosie Beckett

    My dog is suffering from a few different sicknesses and he is in pain almost constantly, so we are thinking about putting him down. I appreciate that you say it is important to make sure that your pet is comfortable and not stressed during the process. I think that our home is the place where my dog is the most comfortable, so I am glad that you mention many vets will set up a house call to do the euthanasia.

  9. Sam Li

    I love what you said about determining the right place for putting down your dog. Pet euthanasia should only be taken care of by professionals. My dog is getting very old, so I’ll make sure to consult with a vet soon.

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